Belonging 

Sometimes I can come over as overwhelming to people. Too strong. And although the insecurity of trying too hard to fit in niggles at the back of mind, it isn’t until someone actually says I need to back off a little that I realise I need to take a step back. 
I’ve always felt out of place.  Like a broken jigsaw piece.  No matter how many time you try to make it fit in, it just won’t.  It won’t complete the picture. All you end up doing is break the piece more until it’s ruined. There’s nothing left.

So I cover my insecurity of not finding a home by laughing, talking and pretending.  Forcing myself in to a group in which everyone already knows each other.

Sometimes while lying on my bed, staring at the ceiling, I psychoanalyse myself. Blame the fear of not belonging to the time when people, I called my own,  made  feel inferior. Made me question myself to the stage I actually thought I was going insane. It was me! It had to be me! Everyone else was able to join in so why can’t I? 

I pretended to go along with the game, just to feel included. For years, I pretended. Pretended we were friends. Pretended I belonged to a group of people. That I fit in. But you can only pretend for so long. And I realised I’m just a broken jigsaw piece. I maybe part of a picture but I will never be able to completely fit in.

I’m okay with not always perfectly fitting in but sometimes I’m not. Sometimes, like today, I wonder why I keep forcing myself in. Why am I pretending to a part of something?

You’re being annoying and overwhelming,  Taiba, you need to take a step back. These people don’t know you, you can’t pretend your lifelong friends. You’re talking too much. Maybe just stop making friends and joining things. It’s just easier being alone, Taiba. It’s better for you. You don’t belong anywhere.

2 Comments

  1. Sapphire Moon

    March 3, 2017 at 8:37 pm

    Oh girl I feel this! Forever questioning where and if I belong. You’ll find the right group eventually and you’ll just know. You won’t have to force anything anymore and it’ll be totally worth the wait. Just relax, we all belong somewhere.
    Saph xx
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  2. ruminvte

    March 10, 2017 at 9:00 am

    I think it’s so common to feel this way and a lot of the time we won’t realise that others do too. I used to be so insecure and constantly doubt myself and my friendships, but eventually you get to the point where you find peace with that side and find people who’s pieces fit yours! Xx

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